A mother’s promising first date turned sour when a well-intentioned suitor made a boundary-crossing move, leaving her feeling “mortified” and “yucky.” The couple had shared plenty of playful banter over text and enjoyed a “lovely” evening at her favourite restaurant, with clear chemistry between them. However, an unexpected and unwelcome gesture changed everything.
The mum, who has known the man for around a year and who happens to be her son’s friend’s dad, shared her experience on Mumsnet. She explained that despite his efforts to woo her—with thoughtful texts and securing reservations at her preferred spot—the date ended abruptly when he slapped her bottom while they were at a pub.
“I was mortified,” she said, recalling how the gesture happened in front of several people, including those she had introduced to him. Although she was stunned at the time, it took her some hours to fully process her feelings. “I just feel so compromised,” she admitted. “I’m 47 and have dealt with my fair share of inappropriate touching. But this just made me feel cheapened and upset.”
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Now, she’s grappling with whether to communicate her discomfort to him or simply walk away. Friends have offered mixed advice—some suggesting she give him another chance, framing it as a bit of harmless fun, while others urge her to set clear boundaries.
Forum users advised her to speak up, warning that not addressing such behavior might lead him to repeat it with others, potentially causing more harm. Others encouraged a direct yet brief response, such as: “I don’t date people who slap me,” emphasizing that an explanation isn’t owed beyond stating her boundaries.
Ultimately, she’s decided not to see him again, highlighting the importance of consent and respect in dating—regardless of prior chemistry or effort.