Meet the new generation of grandmothers transforming the experience of grandparenthood. No longer content to be sidelined or invisible, these Brummie nanas are reshaping what it means to be a grandparent—one stay-and-play session at a time.
Tess Allen and Linda Fletcher, affectionately known as ‘Fletch,’ launched the Nana Made Me playgroup in West Heath in September 2021 after recognising the scarcity of spaces for grandparents to engage with their grandchildren. Since then, their group has flourished. Beyond playtime for children, they offer vital connection and support for grandparents through menopause workshops, first aid classes, talks, and social events at the local pub.
Their commitment to combating isolation has earned them National Lottery funding, allowing them to leave their day jobs and dedicate themselves fully to supporting grandparents and their grandchildren.
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“We’re more than just caretakers stuck at home,” explains Tess, 64, a grandmother of four from West Heath. “We’re often overlooked, dismissed as the ‘cute silver-haired ladies’ handing out sweets. But we’re far from that stereotype."
Members of the group not only care for grandchildren but often support their aging parents as well, becoming an essential part of their families. The infusion of Lottery funding has enabled Tess and Fletch to expand their reach, doubling down on their mission.
Starting April 8, the stay-and-play sessions will run three mornings a week at West Heath Community Centre, with monthly grandparent social evenings that are sometimes hosted at a local pub. These gatherings foster camaraderie in a relaxed atmosphere, complete with wine and lively conversation.
One poignant moment that sparked new initiatives was when a nana tearfully mentioned hormone issues to the group. This led to a menopause expert hosting an enlightening workshop, followed by sessions on pediatric first aid—practical knowledge valued by all.
The group also celebrates the diverse life stories of its members, from cancer survivors to authors and former missionaries. Regular meet-ups include informal talks that highlight the resilience and richness of each individual’s journey.
Tess emphasizes the importance of this validation: “With funding, we’re able to offer essential childcare support without financial stress to young families, and yet it’s also deeply joyful. Our role is vital, but it’s also emotional and rewarding.”
Challenging outdated perceptions, Tess points out that today’s grandparents are often active, working part-time jobs and juggling multiple responsibilities. Their approach to caregiving is more vigilant and conscientious, all while navigating parenting styles set by their own children.
“There’s a plaque in our group jokingly saying ‘What happens at Nanas, stays at Nanas,’” she laughs. “It’s a place where grandchildren can be themselves, and grandparents can share their stories and feelings openly.”
Social connection is vital. Many grandparents face days without adult interaction; the group helps bridge that gap, providing a space where emotions are understood and shared. One member recently experienced devastating grief, and the compassionate support of the group was a lifeline.
Currently, about 15 grandparents attend each day. With the new funding, the group expects to serve up to 45 families per week. Importantly, grandfathers are welcomed and currently make up a small but valued portion of attendees.
Looking ahead, Tess and Fletch dream of turning Nana Made Me into a social franchise to spread this empowering model throughout Birmingham, the Midlands, and beyond. They see their unique approach as more meaningful than conventional nurseries—providing a community-centered, financially accessible resource they proudly call a “fifth emergency service” for families.
“We know of no other grandparent-focused stay-and-play groups like ours in the UK,” Tess says. “We’re eager to explore how we can share this resource more widely.”
In redefining grandparenthood, these Brummie nanas are proving that being a grandparent today is dynamic, loving, and full of purpose—far beyond the old stereotypes.